Getting Her Digits/IM: Simple Tactics to Ensure a “Yes” Answer EVERY TIME!
THIS LESSON IN SUMMATION: In order to get a date, you must first get her digits or IM. To do this, it’s necessary to ask for them at the right time and in the correct manner. If not, you’ll never get them.
It always feels good when a girl responds to your email. It’s even better when she sends you a long, creative response because then you know she’s digging you. BUT… getting a response does NOT mean you’re going to get down her pants. There’s still a lot of work to do.
Once you’ve begun chatting with her (and good for you for getting that far, by the way), it’s time to really show her what you’re all about (or, at least, what you’re claiming to be all about). To effectively accomplish this, you need to humor her and prove to her that you’re not like all of the other men on the site. How do you do that?
- Refraining from making perverted and immature comments right off the bat. Get to know her a bit before you start talking about sex. She knows you’re looking to get laid but she doesn’t want to hear about your sexual fantasies right away.
- Avoiding the subject of “my wife is a beeyotch”. Talk about yourself and what you’re looking for. Not about what your wife fails to give you (sex, or whatever else it may be).
- Making her laugh…at your jokes, not at you. Lighthearted jokes are perfect. That’s the best way to flirt. Don’t try to test your stand-up comedian routine. You’re not a professional and will come off as a fool if you do. Light humor that makes her smile is perfect.
- Not asking for her digits too quickly or being too pushy. By failing to abide by this rule, you better get used to being ignored by women online. More on this in a bit…
Timing is Key: Ask Her Too Soon and She’ll Run, Ask Her Too Late and She’ll Run…for Someone Else
Regardless of how smooth you are, without having proper timing your attempts at getting digits/IM’s will fail. You can ask to chat with you via Instant Messenger in the first email you send to her. That can be done with a simple, “care to chat on IM tonight?” question. But you should NEVER go for her digits right off the bat…especially if she’s married.
So when should you ask for the digits? Preferably after you’ve had 1-2 long IM conversations and you’re confident she feels comfortable with you. She might stress that she can’t give out her digits. Do NOT push her for them. She’ll ignore you if you do. Respect that. She’s married, you’re married…respect each others boundaries and you’ll have a pleasant affair experience.