The monotony of life causes some people to have affairs. They need a change in their dull routine and way of life. They look for excitement, spontaneity and adventures they have never pursued before. Sometimes the flings are harmless, fun and have absolutely no strings attached. With this approach, there are no emotional connections to persons, just pure fun and pleasure.
Men and women both cheat in relationships. However, it is widely known that men are more frequent cheaters than women. Also, men and women cheat for different reasons. The sexes also differ in their choice of partners. While women often have an affair with close friends and people she knows, men often cheat with complete strangers. Women do cheat with strangers too, but men do it to a greater extent. A man is more likely to cheat with the women he met at a bar last night. He will probably sleep with a stranger he met online on their first date. Strangers might seem a little more mysterious to him, and that is what most men enjoy. Delving into the world of oblivion, making love to someone he knows nothing about gives him a sense of victory inside.
Having sex with strangers might be risky, but there are occasionally benefits from doing so. Individuals tend to be more open to strangers and more willing to do things they wouldn’t normally do. They will explore ideas and act with a sense of confidence and dare when in the company of strangers. People feel an unlikely comfort with strangers, knowing that they have no obligations to them. Without the thought of debt or responsibility, they share a common interest in satisfying each other’s sexual needs. There are a few reasons for this phenomenon of why we open up more with strangers during affairs. Let’s discuss these reasons.
The fact that they are strangers
Certainly, people cheat with strangers simply because strangers are just strangers. They owe them nothing and they have nothing to lose- not even your dignity sometimes. Where you might feel some remorse after sleeping with some friend or co-worker, the feeling is sometimes different with strangers. People are less socially attached and they are less at risk of being judged by a stranger. People will always find strangers to have sex with them in an honest and daring manner. Some paid for the services of a stranger to have sex with, or met by sheer coincidence and immediately went hot for each other.
Talking to a stranger is like talking to a favorite teddy bear
Just like a cuddly toy, people can feel comfortable talking to a stranger about their sexual fantasies. They will definitely hear you, and it won’t mean a thing to them. They neither see nor hear any ‘evil’, and so your passionate secrets are kept with them. A stranger might be more conducive to your complaints about your spouse and might offer a listening ear or some advice, hoping to score with you in return. You feel that someone at least gives a sh*t to listening to what you have to say. This is particularly true if you sought the affair because there was a lack of attention and affection in your current relationship.
No further contact
You will most likely open up with a stranger if you plan on keeping the relationship anonymous. You do not plan on having any future contact with that person. With this intention, persons might go as far as to do the unthinkable… just for once in their life. They will make use of the opportunity to explore their bodies in a way they never did before. You would most likely try to impress each other with your unexplored sexual prowess.
There are less social implications
People are more willing to open up sexually to others when they know that the effects on their social lives are next to none. They are less at risk of having their affairs exposed to spouse, friends, family, co-workers and so on. Knowing this gives one some peace of mind to conduct extramarital affairs without worries or concerns about people.
Maybe you open up because you were drunk
People tend to be a lot more open sexually when they are drunk. So if you are drunk or high and you meet someone who shares a mutual interest in sex; you might do it and do it openly because of your intoxicated state.
Having an affair with a stranger may be a bad idea with great benefits. The bad is certainly the unknown and the benefits is mainly due to lack of social and moral implications. You go in for the sexual satisfaction and spontaneous fun. This is why many persons look to strangers with similar desires when they want an intimate fling. But get out as soon as possible before the stranger wants to become your friend. This is where an affair can get ugly.