Aside from the emotional factor, the main reason for most affairs is the sexual attraction and the amazing hot and wild sex that the person experiences outside their marriage with someone else. Although there can be other reasons why a man or a woman decides to cheat on their partner and get involved with someone else sexually – especially if it is an ongoing affair and not a one-time one night stand – the main reason continues to be sexual related.
When you first start dating someone, things are usually hotter and wilder in the bedroom. Everything is new – your partner’s body, their moves, and the lovemaking style. So you can embrace this new exciting sexual experience and it satisfies you completely.
But while you are with the same person over the years – especially if you are married with children – things start to change when it comes to the matters between the sheets. Sex may not feel as exciting or spontaneous as it used to before. And that may lead some people to get involved in sexual affairs outside their married life. But why is it that affair sex feels so much wilder than sex with your spouse?
Affair secrets revealed: Why is affair sex so much hotter than sex with your spouse?
1. Affair sex is new and exciting
Just like as kids we always found that brand new toy more exciting than the old one which we had played with a hundred times, the same rule applies to sexual excitement as well. When experiencing the new and passionate sexual chemistry with someone new, everything feels more exciting – because of the element of surprise.
It might be the way, a kiss feels different after getting used to kissing your spouse the same way for many years. Or perhaps the foreplay is a whole different ballgame comparing to the routine you may have been used to for such a long time. It does not necessarily mean the new affair partner is more skilled in bed. If you stay with them for as many years as you have been with your spouse, chances are all this initial passion and excitement will turn into some sort of predictable routine as well. But for now, it is new and it is certainly more exciting.
2. You can play out your wildest sexual fantasies
When in a stable relationship with someone, sometimes it is not easy to share with them about your wildest sexual fantasies – fearing the possibility of being judged or rejected by someone you love. So for many years, you may keep some of these secret fantasies inside, dreaming that perhaps one day you can get a chance to play them out.
But while indulging in an affair, you have a more confident and carefree attitude towards the relationship. You know it is simply casual and for fun – with no strings attached. So you can bring yourself to express your desires and play your sexual fantasies much more easily. After all, you are no longer afraid of being rejected, as this new affair partner is not someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with.
So you can enjoy some of the hottest and wildest sexual fantasies you have ever had, but never dared to bring it up with your spouse. Perhaps it is a threesome fantasy, some unusual sex games, role playing ideas, or even a mild BDSM fantasy you were always curious to try. All these possibilities make the affair sex hotter than you used to have with your spouse.
3. Sex is more fun with no emotional baggage
While living in a married life with someone – especially if you have kids – there are lots of real-life responsibilities, arguments and emotional baggage you and your spouse carry around every day. Perhaps some of them are the memories of how each of you hurt the other throughout the years – even if it was unintentional.
So the sex life cannot be merely a wild animal instinct kind of world where you just forget about everything else and enjoy the act here and now – as it can often be in an affair. The carefree nature of an affair makes the chemistry so much different in the bedroom, bringing a playful and childlike attitude where you can let go of all the troubles and responsibilities and just have fun.
So there are various reasons why the affair sex is usually hotter and wilder than sex with your spouse inside a married life. That is one of the major motivating reasons many people get involved in affairs after a few years of getting married, when the sexual adventures start to slow down and feel more like a routine.